The belief of a person in himself to complete any task is called their self-belief. Every time we face a new challenge, we ask ourselves, Do I believe in myself? The more we ask ourselves this question, the more we find about ourselves, leading to bringing out an inner critic of sorts.
Self-belief is integral for every human. It makes a person comfortable in their skin, helping them have a clear perspective when facing a new challenge.
It is not easy to build one’s self-belief. It takes a lot of time. There are an endless number of reasons people don’t believe in themselves. This isn’t because they aren’t good at what they do. People have achieved great feats in their life yet always feel like they don’t deserve what they have. Some people never see the potential that they have because of their inner critic eating up all their courage to take that first step
Before we see how we can work on ourselves and build that believe we need to have to excel in our lives, we need to understand what self-esteem is.
A person’s self-esteem is the opinion he forms about himself. What’s different about a person’s self-esteem is that it never solidifies. It tends to depend on everything that is around them instead of what they feel inside them. The problem arises when we limit our self-esteem to the system, we function in. For example, students attach their self-esteem to their marks.
If we think of a child who isn’t scoring good marks but is extremely good at music. Someone observing him from the third person would want him to focus on his talent instead of his marks. Yet, he feels like he has blinders on his eyes. All he can see is his marks, he keeps on feeling bad about himself, and slowly his self-belief is blown to shambles.
Our mind begs the question, what pushed him to form an opinion like this?
The traditional definition of self-esteem is an individual’s subjective evaluation of their worth. Now irrespective of child or adult, a person always tends to evaluate self-worth based on the people around them. This is why the child’s self-esteem was focused on his marks. Everyone around him valued academics more than talent. In an environment like this, the child’s inner critic kept on telling him that he isn’t worth anything until he scores good marks.
We need to help people understand that they are not limited to a system. Their identity is built on more than one specific thing. We need to help people introspect and explore what their identity is.