In Today’s world, no one is perfect, everyone wants to be the best. The parents want to be the best parents ever, the child wants to be the best child their parents could ever have. And so, the race goes on. To be the Best, to be perfect and the list continues… But let me tell you that no one is the best or perfect. Every parent tries to be their best, to give their children everything they want, and to make their children the best.
But to be the best parent doesn’t mean that you have to be rich, to fulfill your child’s dream or to be highly educated. To be the best parent, it is very important to have a positive approach towards in life, and that will reflect in your parenting.
So, to be the best parent you have to be a positive parent.
A positive parent is one who creates boundaries and an environment which will allow children to develop their emotions, communication and truest selves in a respectful and healthy environment.
There’s no belittling, no anger, or punitive punishments. Instead, parents use a calm and loving demeanor forms mutual respect and trust between the parent and child. When the child crosses the boundaries and limits.
Positive parents should not be confused by parents who love and praise their children, in every act they do no matter what the act is right or wrong. Instead, Positive parents knows well when and how to praise their children.
So, below are the top 10 Qualities of Positive Parents
Patience is very important and the most crucial. Children are messy, noisy, don’t listen well, and at times exasperating. Kids can be pretty wonderful, too. But patience is a necessary attribute to develop when raising children. Because children are like clay and positive parents understand very well that to shape the clay into a pot takes time and they have to be gentle at it.
Children quickly learn to doubt themselves, their abilities and worry about the opinions of others, especially among their peers. One of the best ways to avoid this outcome is to encourage your kids. Positive parents encourage their children to develop a positive self-esteem. No matter how small the achievement or how little the effort, they make sure to appreciate their child for all his endeavors. This encourages the child to undertake bigger challenges in life.
The most important characteristics of a positive parent. Is that they are very adaptable and flexible in their approach. They have multiple solutions to the problems. So when one idea doesn’t work, they always try something else. It helps them to go with the flow and be calm.
4. A sense of humor
Parents with a healthy sense of humor are the most popular adults on the block. It’s no wonder why their kids enjoy bringing friends home. Good humor encourages open and unrestrained dialogue in families and provides relief from life’s stressors. It also reduces stress hormones, stimulates endorphins, and strengthens the immune system. Humorlessness magnifies worries and burdens and induces unwarranted anxiety in young people. Keep your sense of humor and pass on to your kids a spirit of playfulness and fun.
Attuned parents are great listeners. They refrain from offering advice, judgments, or comparisons. Quality listening soothes children better than any counselor recommendations and fulfills two crucial childhood needs: the need to feel understood and the need to be validated. Attuned parents intuitively sense their kid’s feelings. They know when their kids are happy, upset, angry, or depressed. They respond to their kid’s needs directly. For this reason, their kids rarely engage in defiant or destructive behaviors.
6. Express Warmth and Love
Some parents feel that it is okay not to express love and affection towards children because they may not understand such emotions. But this is not true as kids can develop an understanding of love and affection from a very young age. Positive parents always express this towards their children from a young age and let them know they are always there for them. This is one of the most important characteristics of a positive parent that differentiates them from other parents.
7. Leadership skills
It’s more effective to have strong leadership skills and only throw your parental weight around when necessary. This positive role-modeling will encourage children to develop leadership skills as well.
Parents usually have to be a multitasker, they have to manage the house, going to work, and raise children. They tend to pull attention away from whatever you‘re doing, and it’s not easy to play with your child, prepare dinner too. But a positive parent manages this very well.
A parent needs to be very vigilant regarding the development of their child. A parent should know what is essential for the child at a particular point in time. Positive parents are not only attentive for child growth, but they are also attentive to the surrounding in which the child is. They are attentive and understand what the child is doing with whom he is spending his time.
10. Respectful Partners
Last but not the least, positive parents respect their partners, parents and other people, and set a great example for their children too.